Wednesday, October 13, 2004
Friday, October 13th, 2000
About 1 week before October 13th of 2000, I was at work when in walks this guy that definitely caught my attention. Oddly enough, everyone seemed to know him and it turned out that he used to work there. I asked one of the managers about this guy and he told me his name (we'll call him "Jake") and said he'd put in a good word for me. I never really thought much would come of it, but we started IMing and found out that we had a lot in common. Since he was coming back into town from college the following weekend (the 13th) we decided to hang out so, he gave me his number and told me to call him sometime on Friday. Well, I spent the day Halloween costume shopping with a friend and when I got home I went through the whole agonizing "should I or shouldn't I" thing about calling Jake. Finally, I took a deep breath, hoped I wouldn't say anything completely stupid and dialed his number. We talked for a few minutes and decided that he was going to come over right then and there. He was only able to stay for a couple hours because he was going to a high school football that evening, but we instantly hit it off and had a really good time. Sometime later in the evening I got a phone call and, to my surprise, it was him. He said he couldn't stop thinking about me and wanted to see me again. Right then. So I gave myself a quick once over and bolted for the door. I remember being so nervous the whole way there, but as soon as he answered the door it all just melted away. I met his parents and his brother (lets call him "Eric") and their friend ("Mark"). Well, I hung out for a while and we had a really good time just talking and listening to music in the basement. I can honestly say that I was really digging this guy and he apparently felt the same. Leaving that night was hard. I mean, really hard. You know how it is when you first meet someone and you want to know everything about them and not let them out of your sight? Yeah, like that, times 10. Jake was amazing. Well, we "dated" for a while. I went out to see him at school a couple times and we talked on the phone or IMed every night. He even wrote me a few letters. But then all of a sudden something changed and he became distant. Eventually he told me he that wanted to get back together with his ex.
We didn't talk for about a month after that, but then one Saturday when he was home from school again, he called me because I had one of his cds. Well, we ended up hanging out that day and from that point on we were best friends. He became that one friend that I could talk to about anything at all and not be afraid that he would judge me. I have a major issue with trust and he was one of 3 (including myself) people that I trusted completely. He and I just had so much in common that it was impossible not to be friends. My friends and I would go out to his college (an hour's drive) just to hang out for a couple hours, we were IMing every night again, and he would call me every single Saturday morning. Then came March, which is his and his brother's birthdays (they're 4 days apart). They were having a big bash because Jake was turning 21 (Eric was turning 20). Of course I went to the party and that's when Eric and I actually became "friends". You see, Eric didn't like the fact that Jake was dating me because I had a kid and that was the real reason Jake didn't want to date me anymore. He was perfectly fine with it until Eric started leaning on him to break it off with me and since they were really, really close, he did. I know it sounds kind of shitty, but if you knew them and how close they were, you would understand. Plus, Eric was very close-minded back then. Anyway, like I said, we became friends. I started going out the their college to see them both. If Jake wasn't around, I would hang out with Eric.
Finally, school was out for the summer. Jake stayed in the college town, but Eric came home. He and I started hanging out almost constantly and before I knew it, we had become really good friends. So, we spent the whole summer going to the beach and taking walks on the pier and listening to music in the basement and all kinds of other stuff. I got to know his friends and he got to know mine. In the fall he went back to school, but he still came home often and I went out there when I could. Jake and I were still close and Eric and I were getting closer. Then in December something happened. Eric asked if I wanted to go out to eat and I said sure. He jokingly said, "It'll be a date", and we kind of giggled about it and then, wouldn't you know, all of a sudden we weren't giggling anymore and it really was a date. So time goes on, we get closer and closer. And before I knew it, I wasn't even thinking about other boys. I was thinking, "What the hell? He got his brother to dump me, but now he's dating me?". Of course, I didn't actually complain or anything. I still had Jake as a trustee and Eric as something more.
Over the next year, we spend an uncountable amount of time together, went on a couple overnight trips, went to a couple concerts... just basically had a really good time. We were never "committed". We each had the option of going out with other people, we just didn't. Then in January or February of 2003 things started winding down. He was busy, I was busy... it happens. The last time I saw him was March 6th (the day after his birthday) of 2003. Jake had been talking to this girl "Lisa" for a while and Eric had just started talking to "Karen". They were in school, working and creating new relationships. I met my current boyfriend in July at a Static-X show (that was the last time I saw Jake, and met his girlfriend, Lisa). I moved into with my boyfriend and now, a year and a half after seeing Eric and a little over a year after seeing Jake, they're both engaged to the girls they were dating the last time I saw them.
So, the point of this really long post is that, 4 years ago I met two of the most important people that have entered my life and although I don't talk to either of them often, and don't see them at all, I would NEVER give up the memories I have with them for anything in the world. I can't think of one bad memory. Not one. They really were the best friends anyone could ask for and I'm glad I met them, even if the time I spent with them was much too brief.
It's amazing how much of a difference 4 short years can make.
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